People...PLEASE check yourselves. There's a steady epidemic growing in our society, and it needs to be curbed before it gets out of hand. What is this epidemic you may ask? A disease known as "nosyasscantmindmyownbusiness-judgmentalhateritis". It's a long name, I know...but that's how serious it is. It seems that people have suddenly become experts on any and everything under the sun. I've seen this exhibited in public realms, especially when dealing with the Chrianna situation - where everyone is now a psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor, therapist, doctor, lawyer, or CSI forensic specialist. I've also seen this play out in personal realms, where I come across people who act like the woman Bernie Mac (R.I.P.) was talking about in Kings of Comedy...wanna tell you where to sit, how to sit, when to get up...stop! Don't do that! Go over there! Come right here! Go right! Go left! Shut up!
I know how the old adage goes: opinions are like assholes - everyone has one. And that's great! I can value someone's opinion and appreciate as just that - an opinion. Not a general fact...it may be your personal truth, but it may not necessarily be mine. I think that's what a lot of people forget.
Too many people are more concerned with what you're doing than with what they're doing. Then they get left behind, and want to get mad when you're doing better than them. If people put as much energy into self-development as they did into getting into people's business, they'd get a lot further ahead.
Too many people think they know the "right" way to live...and if you're deviating from their personal truth, you need saving. Granted, there are some folks who need to get their ish together and need a swift kick in their backside from time to time (we've all seen Intervention). However, it's not necessary to try to get every triangle to fit your square mold. I'm a proud triangle, and love my squares, but the beauty of it is that we're not all the same...
So, as the cartoon says, don't forget to check yourself before you check someone else...and protect your neck. Nosyasscantmindmyownbusiness-judgmentalhateritis is real.
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2 comments:
You make excellent points.
I think people - esp the media are weighing in on this situation because when it comes to celebs, people tend to be 'monkey see monkey do'. They see them as role models - "If she took him back, maybe I should forgive my guy for beating on me."
It's an unfair burden to her - esp at this time.
I've said a few things about this situation and for me, it's not about coming off like a psychologist, or trying to get other people to be like me. It's about sending a different message to women that love shouldn't hurt and if you find yourself in this situation to get out and get help. Not because that's what I would do, but because no one deserves to be beaten.
People think domestic violence should be a private matter, but statistically it's one of the largest causes of death for women. People should get upset if this happens and they should butt in to help put a stop to it. We wouldn't turn our backs on a bully beating up a kid in the school yard so we shouldn't turn our backs or be afraid to discuss it just because it happens behind closed doors.
That's my 2 cents
You're 100% right Ali...I had another friend of mine read my post and say "so...are you saying that people SHOULDN'T be talking about domestic violence????" and that's not my take at all. I really shouldn't have even included the Chris/Rihanna situation, because it kind of turns into a lightning rod for surrounding conversation.
My main motivation for this post was a series of situations that occured this week where it seemed like the universe was sending a lot of judgemental people my way. I was starting to second guess a lot of things, then realized I don't have to live by anyone else's narrow definitions. My thoughts relating to the abuse situation were not towards any type of social responsibility issue. I just found that a lot of people are quick to make judgements, especially when they don't know the truth of a situation...and then the more judgement calls they make, the more it fills in missing details, and it eventually becomes their truth. Hearing people comment about who deserves what punishment, what type of behaviour warrants physical abuse, what an "island girl" or what "those american men" are like - those things, to me, take away from the severity of the issue and dilute something that so many men and women are facing every day. A lot of people are missing the empathy gene these days, and not imagining themselves in someone's shoes before they spew off at the mouth.
Then when you have other media and celebrities using the situation for their own agendas, it further dilutes things. Getting awareness out is what people should be focusing on, but it seems like Hollyweird is riding this like a new trend, when it's sadly nothing new at all.
~ Thanks for commenting! My inner shy girl is still getting used to having this blog be a public thing...lol~
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